I’m 34, a single dad to three-year-old twins, Bella and Lily. Their mom walked out on us when they were just a few months old. Ever since then, I’ve been doing all I can to care for them. But what I didn’t anticipate was that a stranger would be the one who’d change our lives forever.
When my daughters’ mother left, she said she wasn’t “cut out for diapers and midnight feedings.” Of course, I begged her to stay. I said we could figure it out together, but she didn’t look back. She was so done that she didn’t even bother helping with child support.
The woman I thought was my forever after didn’t bother calling or anything. She was just gone, like she was never there. When I realized she wasn’t bluffing and wouldn’t return, I had no choice but to figure it out on my own.
I picked up a permanent job doing remote IT work so I could be home with the kids. I worked during the twins’ nap times, late nights, early mornings, and whenever they were in daycare once they got old enough.
Within weeks of my mom’s situation, the rent for the house where I lived with the twins increased! Just when I thought nothing else could go wrong, to top it all off, my washing machine died!
I’m not going to lie—I was drowning way more than when the twins’ mother was around. I even considered trying to find her or taking her to court to force her to pay child support. But I didn’t. I decided to try and figure it out on my own because fighting with my ex didn’t seem so thrilling.
Now, if you’ve ever had toddlers, you know: laundry is part of survival. Having these two meant constant sticky fingers, potty training accidents, muddy socks, yogurt explosions—it doesn’t stop!
I tried to brave it.